the fact women are viewed as being more sexy at 15 than 40 is the creepiest thing in the world
Anonymous said: The TV show Sherlock triggers me because the main guy looks identical to one of my rapists. My boyfriend knows this but yesterday when I was at his house, he had the show on anyways. I tried to deal with it, but I couldn't and asked him to turn it off. He replied with "You need to get over it. It's a TV show, not him." It felt like he was being mean, but maybe I'm overreacting? Should I really just get over it?
Trauma triggers aren’t something that you can just “get over” and no one, especially not your partner, should demand that from you.
Your boyfriend was being mean. Or at the very least, not at all empathetic or caring. It’s true that people who haven’t experienced trauma often don’t have any concept of what it is like to deal with on a day to day basis, but if you’ve explained that you want to avoid something, he should respect that.
In general, people who don’t “believe in trigger warnings” and shit like that, use the argument that “exposure helps people process trauma, so having your triggers around isn’t a big deal”.
Nope. Terrible argument, go directly to trashcan.
Trained professionals can help patients through exposure therapy, but that’s an intensive and *consensual* process. Knowing your triggers and avoiding them when you want to is healthy and normal. It’s more than reasonable to want your boyfriends house to be a safe place for you, and you’re not overreacting at all. He needs to respect your boundaries. What he said was unacceptable.
Be kind to yourself (and don’t feel obligated to be kind to him about this),
NEED MONEY FOR COLLEGE
NEED COLLEGE FOR JOB
NEED JOB FOR MONEY
WHO THE FUCK DESIGNED THIS SYSTEM
NEED EXPERIENCE FOR JOB
NEED JOB TO GET EXPERIENCE
NEED CAR FOR JOB
NEED JOB FOR CAR
GOTTA EAT TO LIVE
GOTTA STEAL TO EAT
TELL YOU ALL ABOUT IT WHEN I GOT THE TIME
ONE JUMP AHEAD OF THE SLOWPOKES
ONE SKIP AHEAD OF MY DOOM
NEXT TIME GOTTA USE A NOM DE PLUME
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